We were talking about Exodus
21:7-11 and I
tried to convince you that while verse 10 is the “law of daughters” referred to
in verse 9, it does NOT mean that the bondholder can have sex with the naarah
who has been bonded and designated as a wife for himself or his son.
The rest of the
discussion is in Mishnah and Gemara so you had no reading assignment.
Let’s look at what the rabbis instituted for a naarah
who was bonded out and designated as a wife.
First, they defined sex without the prospect of having children as
prostitution, and the Bible prohibits men from betrothing their daughters into
prostitution. This is Deuteronomy 23:18,
which says there shall be no qedeshah or qedesh among Israel. Not only does
this mean not having sex with underage girls, by the way, it also means a
Jewish bondsman who is not married, being assigned a non-Jewish bondswoman to
cohabitate with, because he cannot validly betrothe her.
So the Bible allows a father to bond out a naarah but for the bondholder or his son-designate to have sex with the naarah equals prostitution because since she has not reached puberty, there
is no possibility of her having children.
Second, the rabbis established that a naarah
is allowed to use contraception so that she cannot get pregnant,
because getting pregnant too early can injure her health and the woman’s health
is paramount, even when she IS pregnant.
The bondholder of a naarah has one more problem. She may
be immature in character. If somebody
tries to seduce her, she may not have the steadiness to refuse him, and if she
gives in, the bondholder has to divorce her anyway. It’s a lot of trouble to bond a naarah.
Why would the
father bond the daughter? Because he
couldn’t afford a dowry and no husband would take her without it. The bond money was in lieu of a dowry.
Talmud
discusses one other possible issue with bonding a naarah. If her mother or brother does the bonding, she
is allowed to repudiate the bond when she reaches puberty and the necessary
age. Why would the mother and brothers
do that?
When a father
dies, his unmarried daughters get alimony from his property and if that leaves
nothing over, the sons have to go on public assistance. They can’t divide up
the property covered by the will of the deceased until the daughters marry, and
this provides the mother’s rationale as well because, until the settlement, she
can’t get back her own dowry. What’s
more, the man’s sons might have to pay damages on the dowry, which I will
discuss later.
Until the
daughters are married, the property of the deceased remains in trust for them
and the sons and widow can’t touch any property that might be due to them.
Since the girl
can repudiate the betrothal (and Rashi says that the court intervenes to make
sure she does this), bonding a naarah at the hands of the mother and
brothers is a loser situation for the bondholder.
Both economics
and moral considerations argue that bonding out a naarah was an
infrequent situation. There’s a
philosophical wrinkle that goes with my interpretation of the Bible verses
which I will discuss next week, and you have no reading assignment.
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