I'm just saying -- consequences are a bitch

So a bunch of you couldn't keep your pants zipped up or your panty hose pulled up.
What's worse is, in a world of Chinese and other hacking, you went online to get your kicks.
Now you've been outed.
It's horrible that some of the people using that site committed suicide.
Some others are about to lose their jobs because they are going to lose security clearances.
Consequences are a bitch.
Whatever you sign up to do, there will be consequences, sometimes bad ones.
Ignoring them means they will happen at the absolutely worst time they possibly could.
Ignoring them is adolescent, not adult.
If you are doing something and ignoring the possible bad consequences,
turn in your grownup card because you just forfeited it,
the way criminals forfeit their rights to freedom.

So your significant other is stonewalling you.
You admit that you ignored previous conversations.
You admit that you committed emotional abandonment.
But you don't understand why there's such a silence now.
Consequences are a bitch.
You  have destroyed any confidence your SO previously had, that the two of you had an emotional commitment.
Go to a therapist and find out why you can't keep up your end of an emotional commitment.
Or suck it up.
While you're trying to decide between the two, here's a bit of experience.
One place where I worked, a situation would develop called "the office spouse."
This label only applied when one or both people were married to somebody else on the outside.
Sometimes there would be a divorce and the office spouses would marry each other.
If you don't fix your problem with emotional commitment, this might be in your future.
It doesn't matter how long you've been in the relationship.
Old people have a habit of saying, "At my age, I don't need this aggravation."
Been there, done that.

If you're going to behave like children when you are supposed to be responsible adults, it's  understandable that you would whine like children when you get caught.
If you don't meet your responsibilities in an adult relationship, it's understandable that you would whine when karma comes calling.
But whining is not pretty at any age, and it won't get you anywhere.

I'm just saying...

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